🗺️ The Intimacy Safety Map: A Sabotage Recovery Tool

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Created by Pierre Hooten, LCSW | Serving Atlanta, GA & South Carolina

The Goal: To move from "Protest Behaviors" (accusing, picking fights, or withdrawing) back into a state of "Secure Connection."

🌡️ Section 1: The Temperature Check

The "Upper Limit Problem" happens when things feel "too good" and your nervous system starts looking for a threat.

How am I feeling right now?

• [ ] On edge / "Waiting for the other shoe to drop"
• [ ] Irritated by minor habits (Flaw-finding)
• [ ] Suspicious without direct evidence
• [ ] "Bored" or restless
• [ ] Anxious because things are quiet

Where do I feel this in my body? (e.g., tight chest, stomach knots, restless legs)

🔍 Section 2: Fact-Checking the "Fear Spike"